Handbook For Adoption Essay, Research Paper
Having children is a real task. However, adopted children presents a bigger challenge to many people. Adopted children have many issues with who they are due to a lack of a blood bond with their adopted parents. Over the years, there have been many questions raised about adoptees and their problems with identity formation. Many of top the researchers on this subject agree on the causes of identity formation problems in adolescent adoptees, while many other researchers conclude that there is no significant difference in identity formation in adoptees and birth children. There are three questions to be asked when looking at adolescent identity problems. The first is Do adoptees have identity formation difficulties during adolescence? If so, what are some of the causes of these problems? Is there a significant difference between identity formation of adoptees and nonadoptees? These key questions help to determine the problem and to eventually find the causes.
The National Adoption Center reports that 52% of adoptable children have attachement disorder symptoms. It has also been found that the older the child is when they are adopted, the higher the risk of social maladjustment (Benson, 1998). This theory says that a child who is adopted at one-week of age will have a better chance to be “normally adjusted than a child who is adopted at the age of ten. This may all be caused by age, but may also be in part to the probability that an infant will learn how to trust, where as a ten-year-old may have more difficulty with this task, depending on their history.
Eric Erickson, a developmental theorist, discusses trust issues in his theory of development. The first of Erickson’s stages of development is Trust v. Mistrust. A child who experiences neglect or abuse can have this stage of development severely damaged. A n adopted infat may have the opportunity to fully learn trust, where as an older child may have been shuffled from foster home to group home as an infant, thereby never learning trust. These children often have many social problems and are in trouble in school often due to a lack of a strong parental figure. Even though Trust v. Mistrust is a major stage of development, “The greatest psychological risk for adopted children occurs during the middle childhood and adolescent years (McRoy, 1990). As children grow and change into adolescents, they begin to search for an identity by finding anchoring points with which to relate. Unfortunately, adopted children do not have a biological example to which to turn (Horner & Rosenberg, 1991), unless they had an open adoption in which they were able to form a relationship with their biological families as well as their adoptive ones. It is important for adoptive parents to realize however, that an open adoption situation can place more stress on the child when they are determining their actual identity. A child that knows both sets of parents will sense a split loyalty to each family. Because of these situations, it is important for a parent to determine what situation is actually better for the child. However, the absence of a biological bond between the adoptee and the adoptive parent(s) may cause trust issues in the adoptee (Wegar, 1995). Baran (175) stated that, “Late adolescence…is the period of intensified identity concerns and is a time when the feelings about adoption become more intense and questions about the past increase.” Unless the adopted child has the answers to these arising questions, identity formation can be altered and somewhat halted. McRoy (1990) agrees with this point: “Adolescence is a period when young people seek an integrated and stable ego identity. This occurs as they seek to link their current self-perceptions with their ‘self perceptions from earlier periods and with their cultural and biological heritage (Brodsky, 1987).” Adopted children will have problems with these issues, especially if their adopted parents are nothing like their biological parents. Many things with children are inherited, and because of this, it is very helpful for a parent to do quite a bit of research on the child’s cultural background. Adopted children sometimes have difficulty with this tasks because they often cannot gather this information by themselves. They often have incomplete knowledge about why they were put up for adoption and what their birth parents were like. This leaves a giant void in their lives where their biological parents belong. This causes them to grieve for their biological parents as if they had passed away before they were born. It seems like an adolescent’s identity formation is impaired because they hold little knowledge that his roots have been severed and remain on the unknown side of their being. These struggles are “part of a human need to connect with their natural clan and failure to do so may precipitate psychopathology (Wegar, 1995).” Also in agreement with him are McRoy and Baran. Vital to the adopted adolescent’s identity development is the knowledge of the circumstances surrounding the adoption, and the offer to find out more. Without this information, the adolescent has difficulty deciding which family he resembles.
During the search for an identity in adolescence, the child may face an array of problems including “hostility toward the adoptive parents, rejection of anger toward the birth parents, self-hatred, transracial adoption concerns, felling of rootlessness..(McRoy, 1990). While searching for an identity adolescent adoptees sometimes are involved in a behavior that psychologists term “family romance.” This is not a romance in a sexual way but rather where they portray their biological parents in an unrealistic manner. The adopted child may develop a family romance in order to defend against painful facts.
Often times, adoptees wonder why they were adopted, and because closed-adoptions are common, the adoptee is left with many unanswered questions about the circumstances of the adoption. The adoptee may have a tendency to harbor negative feelings about himself, feeling like he was unwanted, bad, or rejected by the birth parent. These feelings can be quite powerful, so the adoptee will engage in this family romancing behavior in order to offset the negative feelings and try to reconcile his identity crisis. This point is stressed by Horner and Rosenberg (1991) when they write, “The painful reality to be confronted by adoptees is that their biological parents did not want, or were unable, to find a way of keeping and rearing their own child. The children feel that they were either ‘not meant to be’ or ‘intolerable’… .” Finding an identity, while considering both sets of parents is a difficult task for the adolescent. The adoptee does not want to hurt or offend his adoptive parents, and he also does not want to ignore what is known about his biological roots. Horner and Rosenberg (1991) write: Adoptive status may represent a developmental interference for children during adolescence. Instead of the usual struggles over separation and the establishment of a cohesive sense of self and identity, the adopted child must struggle with the competing and conflictual issues of good and bad parents, good and bad self, and separation from both adoptive parents and images of biological parents.
If all adoptions were open, the adoptee would have the ability to know about the traits of each family. He would have an easier task of forming an identity for himself, rather than struggling with the issues of to whom he can relate. If the adolescent has some information about his birth parents, such as ethnicity, socioeconomic status, and religion, Horner and Rosenberg (1991) believe that the following can happen: “From the bits of fact that they possess, adopted children develop and elaborate explanations of their adoptions. At the same time, they begin to explain themselves, and they struggle to develop a cohesive and realistic sense of who they are and who they can become.” It appears that if the adoptee has even a minimal amount of information about his birth parents and adoption, he will have an easier time with identity formation than an adoptee who has no information about his adoption.
The adoptive parents can also play a key role in aiding in identity formation of the adopted adolescent. Much of the research I surveyed at least touched upon the role of the adoptive parents. “Kornitzer stated that the more mysterious the adoptive parents make things for the child the more he will resort to fantasy” (Baran et al., 1975). This is yet another argument for open adoptions. Again, if the child knows the circumstances of his adoption and other pertinent information about his biological roots, he will have an easier time forming an identity in adolescence. It is also noted that, “… young adoptees are vulnerable to feeling ‘different’ or ‘bad’ due to the comments and actions of others” (Wegar, 1995). This is to say that the child will feel more accepted, and that his adoption is not a stigma if his adoptive parents have the conviction that being adopted does not make the family ‘bad’, and it does not mean that the adoptive parents are failures because they could not have biological children. Sometimes the negativity of adoptive parents about the circumstances of the adoption can be sensed by the adoptee, thus causing the adoptee to believe that there is something wrong with being adopted. Once again, this can cause identity formation problems, especially if the adolescent believes that he is inferior or bad because he is adopted and not raised in his biological family. “The literature on adopted children has long documented particular and sometimes intense struggles around identity formation, and suggests that in many ways adopted children follow a different developmental course from children who are raised by their biological parents” (Horner and Rosenberg, 1991).
While most of the studies I read found that adoptees have difficulty in identity formation during adolescence, I did find an article which refutes this point. Kelly et al. (1998) write: Developing a separate, autonomous, mature sense of self is widely recognized as a particularly complex task for adoptees. While many scholars have concluded that identity formation is inherently more difficult for adoptees some recent comparisons of adopted and nonadopted youth have found no differences in adequacy of identity formation, and a study by Stein and Hoopes (1985) revealed higher ego identity scores for adoptees. Goebel and Lott (1986) found that such factors as subjects’ age, sex, personality variables, family characteristics, and motivation to search for birth parents accounted more for quality of identity formation than did adoptive status. In conclusion, it is difficult to say who is right in their beliefs about adoptees and identity formation.
The research I have reviewed has mostly shown that adoptees do have quite a bit a difficulty forming an identity during adolescence, and that this difficulty can be due to a number of factors. Negative parental attitudes about adoption can have a negative affect on the adoptee. The issue of open versus closed adoptions will forever be a debate, but the research does show that the more an adoptee knows about his birth family and the circumstances surrounding his adoption, the easier it will be for him to form an identity during adolescence. Most of the researchers who wrote about the family romance seemed to do so in a negative manner, when in fact I believe that the ability to fantasize about the birth family may be a healthy option for the adolescent who is the victim of a closed adoption. It allows him to construct a view of what his birth family is like, and it also allows him to relieve himself of some of the internal pain which is caused by closed adoptions. Overall, most of the literature supported the notion that adoptees do indeed have identity formation problems.
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